What Is Phubbing And How Might It Be Ruining Your Relationship?

Phubbing might be a very modern concept but we’re all guilty of doing it once in a while.

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Phubbing isn’t just a well-put together portmanteau of phone and snubbing – it may also be the reason your relationship is stuck in a rut.

First coinced by researchers from Baylor University, Texas, according to the US institution’s research, it’s seriously on the rise and is fast emerging as a major relationship killer.

The term actually refers to the practice of ignoring your partner’s conversation in favour of looking at your phone and we’ve all been guilty of it from time to time in the past.

According to figures produced by Baylor, based on sample testing, around 7 in 10 people felt their partner’s phone interfered with their relationship.

“The presence and use of cell phones is ever-increasing causing the boundaries that separate our work and other interests from our romantic relationships to become more and more blurred,” Dr James Roberts, the author behind the new study warned.

“As a result, the occurrence of phubbing is nearly inevitable.

“In fact, from a sample of 143 individuals involved in romantic relationships, seventy per cent responded that cell phones ‘sometimes,’ ‘often,’ ‘very often,’ or ‘all the time’ interfered in their interactions with their partners.”

According to Dr Roberts, around 46% of partners felt they had been phubbed by their partner and a further 37% were left depressed as a result.

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So how do we go about combatting Phubbing? There are a few straightforward enough rules that could help.

  1. Don’t use your mobile as an alarm clock and avoid looking at your phone for at least 30 minutes at the start of the day. You’ll be free to get ready and spend a little more quality time with your partner.
  2. Implement no-phone time zones, where you aren’t allowed to use your mobile for a set time.
  3. Ban the use of phones during meals also comes recommended.
  4. No mobiles in the bedroom. Whether it’s watching something on them, texting, listening to a podcast or just browsing – it’s all bad and needs to stop.

You’ll thank us in the long-run.

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