During an argument with your significant other, it’s often difficult to know how to either end the conversation or if you’re a competitive type – win said fight. Well, we might have found that one word that can put out the flame.
“Ouch.” According to marriage and family therapist Hal Runkel, by uttering this word, you can quickly put an end to the vicious back and forth.
“That conversation —which was a very familiar path, that fight — is now a totally different path because one of you chose to actually get vulnerable,” Runkel told Business Insider.
While many of us tend to become defensive during a fight and steel ourselves for the next blow, it’s not the best route towards resolution.
It’s about inviting the other person into the conversation instead of talking over them, claims Runkel. After showing your underbelly, in an ideal situation, your partner would respond in kind, and the conversation would become a whole lot calmer.
Though it doesn’t always happen this way and ultimately depends on the relationship, “Ouch” is worth a try. At the end of the day, we’re all human, and most of us have a heart. It could do the trick.