The secret to a good sex life may not be as big a secret as many were led to believe.
For years, men and women have searched for the magic formula behind a great love life but the answer is, apparently, far more simple that first believed: it’s all about practice.
According to a series of studies compiled in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, good sex simply takes work.
Researchers at the University of Toronto reached this groundbreaking conclusion after surveying some 1,9000 people on what they saw as the fundamentals of a fulfilling sex life.
The findings showed that, the more people believed great sex required practice, the happier they were with their partners and day-to-day lives.
On the flip side, however, those who believed sparks should and will automatically fly in the bedroom were actually more likely to feel like their was something missing from their lives.
Believing in what the authors termed “sexual destiny” the study warned that these individuals were also more likely to suffer heartache in their relationship, with this group often coming into conflict with their partners over differing sexual desires.
Lead author Jessica Maxwell said: “People who believe in sexual destiny are using their sex life as a barometer for how well their relationship is doing, and they believe problems in the bedroom equal problems in the relationship as a whole.
“Whereas people who believe in sexual growth not only believe they can work on their sexual problems, but they are not letting it affect their relationship satisfaction.”
The study also warned that even when people do find an instant connection with a potential partner, these relationships often fizzle out after a couple of months amid problems concerning communication and a failure to explore their partner’s fantasies and desires.
It turns out the old adage is true: practice makes perfect.