New research suggests men feel manlier when a woman has an orgasm during sex.
After looking at the behaviour of 810 men around the age of 25-years-old, the researchers discovered that the female orgasm functions as a “masculine achievement.”
The volunteers stated that not making their partner come was akin to a major failure, meaning that the woman’s pleasure was much less important than a notch on their bed post so to speak.
The study, published in The Journal of Sex Research states that they achieved the results by getting the volunteers to read a vignette where they imagined that a pretty woman either did or did not come during sex with them. The men then rated their self-esteem according to both scenarios.
Those who felt the most insecure were more likely to have higher “masculine gender role stress,” meaning their egos are easily bruised.
Alternatively, a vast majority of heterosexual women stated that ‘while they enjoy orgasms, their desire to experience orgasm mainly rests on a concern for their male partner’s feelings and perceptions as a good lover.’ Also, faking it is a way to please their partner as opposed to themselves.
At the end of the day, the authors of the study hope that these findings will start changing how men approach sex in the bedroom and see it as a team effort instead of a one man achievement.
Loaded staff writer Danielle De La Bastide has lived all over the planet and written for BuzzFeed, Thought Catalog as well as print publications throughout the Caribbean.